For those unsure of how to approach the therapeutic process, I sometimes suggest that I think of therapy as professional organizing for your brain. As a therapist, I can work with you to help put a memory in a file that makes sense to you.
Recently I have heard a bunch of rumblings about examining facts not feelings. Maybe you have heard this too? Even as someone who appreciates facts and has trouble lying even when it might be a good idea, I felt a strong resistance to this idea.